How To Keep Love Alive After Baby

3. Pay her compliments. Maybe you're not feeling much gratitude toward your wife or what she does for you. But try to find something. The way she looks? Her cooking? The way she takes such good care of your child? Tell her! Hearing your expression of gratitude will encourage her to feel more appreciative of what you bring to the relationship. Track the number of times you compliment your wife. You should have at least five entries a week.

4. Find out what she feels is missing in her day. Most women acknowledge a craving to be understood and listened to. So ask her what she's missing, and take time to address one or two of the things she mentions. This should start an honest dialog about sex, giving you the opportunity to bring up your points without making her feel that her needs are being ignored.

5. Pick up on her casual mention of something she is craves but may not expect to have or experience. Say your wife hears a song on the radio and says, "I love the way he sings." Get a CD (or download) of the song, pour her something nice to drink, sit her down in the living room, and invite her to, "Relax and let's listen together." If you're not in the habit of enjoying music together, this can be a sweet pattern-changer for you both. What actor or directors' movies does she enjoy but not get to see much? Talk about this casually, and file away her responses. Follow up and get a DVD that you can enjoy together. You can create a similar scenario by following up on any of the desires she expresses. How about a day at a local spa? Groupon.com offers deep discounts on massages and other spa treatments. Put the coupon you purchase in a pretty envelope, and present it as a gift.

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Reply #2 on : Thu June 10, 2010, 07:57:13

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Very interesting to read about it, but it's very difficult to realize that situation in real...

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Reply #1 on : Thu March 18, 2010, 14:38:11

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I will have to try those things. I have noticed as well that you kinda need her to run the show for the first 3-6 months after the birth. She has to be comfortable and have no pain for her to be interested.